“I Love You” Therapy

Good morning!

I’ve been away a while.  Life gets busy, and priorities shift.  It’s my intention to blog regularly, as I’m usually coming across information that fascinates me and helps me one way or the other, and I love to share that material.  One day soon the time will be available more regularly, I’m certain.

But for now, I’d like to direct you to this link: http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/02/13/lifes-frailty-and-the-gestures-that-go-a-long-way/?ref=science

Tara Parker-Pope is a NYTimes writer who frequently contributes to the Tuesday “Science Times.”  She writes today about the frailty of life and the importance of expressing our love for one another.  I agree.  You just don’t know when it’s the last time you’ll see someone.  I know that sounds morbid, but it’s a truth that bears acceptance.  But there’s another reason for expressing our affection: it feels good.  It fills the heart.  If you’re not certain of this, take it to a meditation.  After you’ve steadied your mind somewhat, simply find two words to accompany your breathing.  Something like “soft” on the in breath and “heart” on the out breath.  Or “loving” and “kindness.”  Or “gently” and “caressing.”  The only limit is your imagination.  Once your mind has settled on this breathing intonation, bring to mind’s eye the image of a loved one.  Dwell with this image.  Perhaps reinvent this image to this loved one as a seven year old.  Or yourself, perhaps.  Then examine your heart.  Feel your body in this mindset.

If your body has softened, become loving, then take the experiment further: tell that person of your softened heart, caressing touch, or lovingkindness.  Be vulnerable, expect no return.  And if that person wonders “what’s this about” you can always tell them “it’s cheaper than a Valentine’s Day card”!

Peace and love to you,

Jim