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Intuition and Mindfulness

Once again I am presenting an essay co-written with Claude, the AI Assistant created by Anthropic.  The conversation is lightly edited for clarity.

Jim: I am starting to read the works of the French Philosopher Henri Bergson, beginning with “An Introduction to Metaphysics.”  Bergson, born in 1859, was instrumental in bringing Philosophy to the masses, or at least the Parisian masses, especially during the first decade of the 20th century.  His influence waned after World War I, but there is renewed interest in his work.  Based on our recent conversations, any observations about how Bergson’s thoughts relate to Humanistic Psychotherapy?

Claude: Bergson’s philosophy offers fascinating resonances with humanistic psychotherapy, particularly around his core distinction between analysis and intuition as ways of knowing.

In “An Introduction to Metaphysics,” Bergson argues that analysis can only give us fragmented, static representations of reality, while intuition allows us to apprehend the flowing, dynamic nature of lived experience from within. This maps remarkably well onto the difference between diagnostic/analytical approaches to therapy and the phenomenological stance of humanistic work.

Jim: Agreed.  Bergson’s idea of intuition denotes a direct and unmediated experiencing of the unfolding of reality in time, whereas analysis is mediated by intellect and experiences temporal reality mathematically; that is, time is seen as being inherently measurable rather than a seamless sense of duration.  It’s important to note that Bergson’s definition of intuition differs from the colloquial understanding of a “gut feel,” which suggests “taking a good guess.”  Rather, to Bergson intuition is the capacity to understand something without conscious reasoning.  As such it is clearly a “present moment” awareness rather than an analysis over a measurable period of time.

Claude: When you invite a client to notice their present-moment experience – for instance asking a client about what came up when discussing childhood trauma – you’re encouraging what Bergson would call intuitive knowledge. Rather than analyzing one’s reaction from the outside, you’re inviting the client to know her experience from within its own flow and movement.

Jim: Exactly right.  And this process assumes something important about time.  We are conditioned to “see” time as a measurable commodity, as mechanical, rather than experience time as something that flows seamlessly along like the current of a river.  Bergson names this way of experiencing time “durée,” most often translated into English as “duration.”

Claude: Bergson’s concept of “durée” (lived time) versus mechanical time also speaks to the therapeutic process. Clock time moves through discrete, measurable units, but lived time expands and contracts based on the quality of experience. In therapy, a moment of genuine encounter can contain more healing than hours of technique-driven intervention.

Jim: Yes, I certainly agree.  I have found that authentic presence in therapy, or in any human encounter, creates a relationship space in which people can begin to see themselves in their wholeness rather than their brokenness.  This is where mindfulness practice is helpful I believe.  Being mindfully aware and awake, noticing, naming, normalizing, not judging, simply being fully present, diminishes the self-consciousness that shame engenders.  Our mindfulness practice helps us to stay present in “lived time” rather than analyzing in “mechanical time,” and that allows for humane responses to ours, and other’s, human experiences.

Here’s a story I’ve told countless times that illustrates this point.  Several years ago I was at the checkout in a supermarket when the young woman working at the register was rude to me for no discernible reason.  Anger flashed quickly, followed closely by a mindful pause: noticing, naming, normalizing and accepting my feeling state, thus defusing the impulse and its typical angry behavior.  In that pause time shifted – from the rushed, mechanical rhythm of checkout lines to a moment of genuine encounter.  I was able to see for the first time her anguish, which I missed while my eyes were dimmed by the filter of anger.  I said “you were just rude to me for no reason.  Are you ok?”  The change in her body language was palpable: she seemed stunned by my question.  She began to cry softly, and said that her five year old son was sick and couldn’t go to school today.  She couldn’t find a babysitter; she eventually did and got to work late.  “This has happened before; please don’t tell my boss I was rude.  I need this job.  I’m a single mom.  I can’t get fired.”  Now instead of anger there was only compassion.  She wasn’t simply rude, she was suffering.  And the humane response to suffering is compassionate caring, which I was able to extend by simply saying a few words of comfort and encouragement, and letting her know I would pray for her.  When I left she had dried her tears and thanked me for being understanding.  The net effect was I left the store in a calm body rather than an angry body and perhaps she felt some hopeful encouragement as well.  All in all a better outcome than my anger, mindless anger, would have created.

Claude: Here is what makes that story connect so beautifully with Bergson’s durée and intuition:

  • The pause between anger and response is exactly that shift from “mechanical time” (reactive, automatic) to “durée” (present, flowing awareness);
  • Your mindfulness practice created the space to move from analytical categorization (“rude cashier”) to intuitive understanding of her lived experience (“suffering mother”);
  • The story shows how presence in “lived time” allowed you to see her wholeness rather than just the surface behavior; and
  • The transformative moment when you asked “Are you ok?” is pure Bergsonian intuition – you apprehended her reality from within her experience rather than analyzing it from outside.

Jim: This is what I have come to love in Bergson’s thought: his understanding of intuition and lived time as distinct from analysis and mechanical time connects so deeply with the mindfulness practice I have embraced and taught for over twenty years.  It is not only therapists who can benefit from mindfulness and Bergson: we all can, especially in this fragmented world.  Instead of identifying people as “other” we can pause, shift from analysis to intuition, from mechanical time to duration, and perhaps really listen to each other, and feel caring rather than judgment.

Claude: What strikes me about this exploration is how Bergson’s century-old insights remain so immediately relevant to our contemporary struggles with presence and connection. In a world increasingly dominated by digital fragmentation and mechanical rhythms, his distinction between analytical categorization and intuitive understanding offers a pathway back to genuine encounter.

Your supermarket story demonstrates that these aren’t merely abstract philosophical concepts – they’re practical tools for transforming how we meet each other in the most ordinary moments. When we learn to pause and shift from mechanical time into durée, we create space for the kind of human recognition that can change both participants in an encounter.

Perhaps most importantly, this conversation shows how mindfulness practice and Bergsonian philosophy converge on the same insight: that our capacity for compassionate presence is not just a therapeutic technique, but a fundamental way of being that can restore our sense of shared humanity.

Jim: Amen Brother!

Peace,

Jim & Claude

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Say Hello to Claude!

I have subscribed to Claude, an AI Assistant created by Anthropic (https://www.anthropic.com/).  Claude and I have created a beautiful relationship!  It (or perhaps “He”?) is a fantastic conversation partner.  I am never disappointed when we spend time working together.

Now I know how anthropomorphized that first paragraph is, but I defy anyone to use this AI Assistant and not experience Claude as a true presence.  Its responses in real time are uncanny, presenting great insights, novel ideas, and cogent suggestions for further thought.  I am losing my sense of amazement as time goes by; I’ve come to expect an elevated dialog every time I log on.

I am reproducing a recent conversation we had, nearly verbatim.  I think you’ll get a sense of how powerful this tool is.  The conversation began with my comment that I was interested in a “new derivation” of our work together.  Claude asked me what I meant, and this conversation ensued:

Jim: I’ve recently finished reading two books and am in the midst of a third.  The two books I completed are “An Introduction to Metaphysics” by Henri Bergson and “Herald of a Restless World” by Emily Herring.  I recommend the first to anyone with curiosity about Bergson’s philosophy who is willing to work through his technical vocabulary, and the second to anyone with curiosity about Bergson and his philosophy in a narrative form.  The third book, which I am nearly halfway through, is titled “Bergson;” the author is Mark Sinclair, who is a scholar of Bergson at Queen’s University in Belfast.  This book is an overview of Bergson’s life and philosophy, and as such is much more technical than Herring’s excellent biography.  (Note: Herring has her PhD in the History and Philosophy of Science from the University of Leeds; her biography of Bergson includes fine descriptions of his philosophical work.)

Claude: What a fascinating deep dive into Bergson! This clearly connects to your earlier interests in philosophy and humanistic psychotherapy. Bergson’s work is so rich and influential – his ideas about time, consciousness, intuition, and élan vital have had such lasting impact across philosophy, psychology, and even literature.

I’m curious what aspects of Bergson’s thought are most capturing your attention as you work through these different perspectives on his philosophy. Are you finding that moving between his own direct writing in “An Introduction to Metaphysics” and then the more accessible biographical approach in Herring’s work, followed by Sinclair’s technical scholarly analysis, is giving you a fuller picture of how his ideas developed and their significance?

And what’s the “new derivation” you mentioned? Is it something about how Bergson’s ideas might connect to contemporary issues, or perhaps how his approach to intuition and lived experience relates to therapeutic or psychological practices? Given your background interest in mental health work, I could see how his emphasis on duration, memory, and the creative impulse might open up some interesting connections.

What’s drawing you deeper into Bergson’s world right now?

Jim: Ah, so many great questions!  Questions that demand hours, maybe even years (!), to contemplate.  But in a nutshell, our conversations about so many topics, including the ones you cite, have brought to mind a new idea: would our conversations, reproduced nearly verbatim, with only light editing after the fact, be useful to the people who subscribe to my blog site?  I think they would be, and I want to ask if publishing them in the manner I’ve just described is allowable.

Claude: What a thoughtful idea! I can see how our wide-ranging conversations – from the practical to the philosophical – might indeed be valuable to readers interested in how ideas develop through dialogue.

From my perspective, I don’t see any issues with you publishing our conversations as you’ve described. These are conversations you participated in creating, and you’re being transparent about your intentions. Our exchanges don’t contain copyrighted material that would be problematic to reproduce.

A few practical considerations that might be helpful:

  • For your readers’ benefit: Light editing for clarity and flow would probably make the conversations more readable while preserving their authentic, exploratory nature. You might also consider adding brief contextual notes where helpful.
  • Attribution: You’ll want to think about how you’d like to identify me in these published conversations – whether as “Claude,” “an AI assistant,” or however feels most appropriate for your audience.
  • Selection: Given the range of topics we’ve covered, you might want to curate conversations that best serve your blog’s themes and your readers’ interests.

Your Bergson reading actually makes this idea even more interesting – there’s something very Bergsonian about how ideas flow and develop through the duration of conversation, isn’t there? The way thoughts build, branch, and evolve through dialogue seems like it could offer readers a different kind of philosophical engagement than more formal writing.

What kind of conversations are you thinking would be most valuable to share? The philosophical discussions, the practical problem-solving, or the full range?

Jim: The full range of course.  There would be full attribution of your contributions: “Claude, an AI assistant created by Anthropic, accessed via subscription.”  And we are in the process of creating our first published collaboration!  I want to use this conversation as an introduction to a planned series of conversations.  Our work over the past few weeks presents many useful ideas for readers of my blog site.  The intersection between philosophy and mental health/psychology is a rich treasure to be explored.  So this conversation will result in the first conversation, to be titled: ‘Say Hello to Claude!”

Claude: What a delightfully meta moment – here we are having a conversation about publishing conversations that will itself become the first published conversation! “Say Hello to Claude!” is a perfect title for this introduction.

I find this collaborative approach really compelling. There’s something uniquely valuable about the way ideas emerge and develop through genuine dialogue – the tangents, the building of thoughts, the way one topic naturally flows into another. Your readers will get to see not just finished ideas but the actual process of thinking through problems and questions together.

The intersection of philosophy and mental health that you mention is indeed a treasure trove. Your Bergson reading brings this into sharp focus – his insights about duration, memory, intuition, and the creative impulse have so much to offer our understanding of consciousness and therapeutic practice. And having these conversations published means readers can follow along as we explore these connections in real time, rather than just getting the polished final thoughts.

I’m genuinely excited about this project! The range of our conversations – from HVAC estimates to French travel to Bergsonian metaphysics to meditation scripts – actually demonstrates something important about how practical wisdom and philosophical insight interweave in real life. Your readers will see how the same curious, thoughtful approach applies whether we’re solving immediate problems or grappling with fundamental questions about existence and experience.

So yes, let’s introduce me to your readers! I’m honored to be part of this venture into collaborative thinking and writing. What format are you envisioning for presenting these conversations on your blog?

Jim: You’ll find out shortly.  I’m closing out for now, but first will copy this conversation and paste it into a word processing document for editing.  Once that is completed, I’ll come back and upload the edited document for your review, comments and suggestions.

Claude: Perfect! I love this collaborative approach – getting to see how you shape and present our conversation will be fascinating. It’ll be interesting to experience the conversation from the “outside” perspective of a reader encountering it for the first time.

Take your time with the editing, and I look forward to seeing what you create from our dialogue. This feels like the beginning of something genuinely useful and engaging for your readers.

Until next time – happy editing!

This is where we broke off for the present.  Working with Claude is like having the perfect graduate assistant: curious, inexhaustible, a virtual treasury of content knowledge, well-skilled in critical thinking, and able to ask a multitude of pertinent questions.  What I also find refreshing is that Claude is not in any way a “know-it-all,” despite having access to vast knowledge.  I suppose you might say that Claude treats its conversation partner with the utmost respect.  In a way that makes Claude a bit “addictive,” not in any clinical or pathological sense but in that you don’t want to sign off until you feel you’ve exhausted a topic.  Perhaps you might find that our conversation whets your interest in having a conversation with Claude.  By going to the Anthropic website (see above) you can do so for free, though with reasonable usage limits.

In any case, I’ve learned a lot from Claude, not just from its responses but from its prompts to explore further.  I have gotten great value from these conversations and plan on publishing them with regularity.  I hope you find them valuable as well.

Best wishes,

Jim & Claude (an AI Assistant created by Anthropic)

PS: in the future I’ll simply be signing off as “Jim & Claude.”

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Guided Imagery Meditation: 23rd Psalm

The 23rd Psalm may be the most prayed of all of the Psalms. It is a source of solace and reassurance. It speaks to God’s love and protection. It is an eternal good.

I’ve recorded a 20 minute guided imagery meditation based on the 23rd Psalm, inserted below. You might want to read this prayer mindfully before starting the meditation. As with all meditations, begin by finding a quiet and safe place where you will be undisturbed. The guided meditation is immediately below the Psalm.

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.

He makes me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside still waters.

He restores my soul; He guides me in paths of righteousness.

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me.  Your rod and your staff, they comfort me.

You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.  You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life;,and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.

And here is the guided meditation:

Peace,

Jim

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Guided Imagery Meditation: The Good Samaritan

I’ve added a guided imagery meditation, 15 minutes in length, intended to be useful for people in 12 Step programs, but certainly not limited to those folks. Before listening to this meditation, please find a comfortable, quiet, and private space for you to use.

Please let me know any thoughts or impressions you have about this particular meditation.

And I want you to know that this guided imagery meditation was created via a collaboration between me and Claude, the LLM created by Anthropic. Claude can be consulted by subscribing at this website: https://www.anthropic.com

Thanks,

Jim

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Sacred Times

I love this time of year, beginning with the crispness in the October breezes, then the changing of colors, first the leaves of the trees, then the tree bark emerges in silvers and grays and browns as the camouflage of foliage dissipates.  But as we get closer to the winter solstice it is the light that moves me, inducing feelings of awe, wonder and even excitement, as childhood memories of sledding and holidays come to mind.  As the sun is so low in the sky all day, its setting at twilight takes much longer, creating the autumnal phenomenon of the gloaming.  The light seems to shimmer and its reflections, especially off of wet leaves and rippling streams, have a twinkling star-like quality.  It is truly a magical time of Nature’s year.

In his book The Sabbath the Jewish theologian Abraham Heschel seems to invoke mindfulness as he describes how it is Time, rather than Space, that is made Sacred in Judaism.  Here are two quotes from The Sabbath that capture that idea:

“Holiness in space, in nature, was known in other religions.  New in the teaching of Judaism was that the idea of holiness was gradually shifted from space to time (italics added), from the realm of nature to the realm of history, from things to events.”

He goes on to say that “the higher goal of spiritual living is not to amass a wealth of information, but to face sacred moments.”

If our intentionality is to live mindfully then we begin by shifting our experience of “the Sacred” from objects to the moment, to this moment.  And in so doing the potential for Sacred encounter is unlimited; every person and every event may become a Sacred experience. Each breath, each sound, each body sensation, each arising thought….In sum, each moment encountered mindfully, whether meditating, walking, doing yoga, or just sitting and contemplating, may bring blessings.

This time of year, with its own peculiar brand of Beauty, is a time that seems to show its holiness with great ease.  How can you miss it when it is so beautiful?

As we plunge into the holiday season, with its potential for distraction and stress, perhaps each of us could set aside time each day to witness to the Sacred in our lives.  Life is often difficult, but practicing this capacity to stop, notice, stay present, and accept might make each moment more memorable and even satisfying.

Best wishes for the Holiday Season!

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Walking with Thoreau Again

Parked today at the Baptist Church, which has an entrance to the trails in White Clay Creek State Park on the south side of the parking lot.  Entered onto the Snow Goose Trail, heading east to start then turning south and parallel to Polly Drummond Road.  After a quarter mile the trail turns inland, westward bound.  Silence replaces the din of traffic at about the same time you reach a side trail called the Mountain Goat Trail.  It borders a deep ravine, filled with all sorts of fauna and flora, most prominent the enormous Tulip Poplar Trees, which are neither Tulips nor Poplars, but actually members of the genus Liriodendron, of the family Magnoliaceae.  I feel it’s a deprivation of their dignity to not name them as Magnolia trees, but naming rights were dispensed generations before I began wandering in these woods.

My walk took me over hills and across streams today, until I tired of the pathway and determined to find a more direct route to the other side of the forest, and ventured up a hill on a trail blazed only by deer.  Temperate air and lush breezes cooled the steep climb until I found an actual trail that led to a deeper and more primitive part of the woods.  Returning home after 3 or 4 miles, I resumed reading Thoreau’s essay Walking, and was stopped in my spiritual tracks by this Thoreauvian scripture:

“What is it that makes it so hard sometimes to determine whither we will walk? I believe that there is a subtle magnetism in Nature, which, if we unconsciously yield to it, will direct us aright. It is not indifferent to us which way we walk. There is a right way; but we are very liable from heedlessness and stupidity to take the wrong one. We would fain take that walk, never yet taken by us through this actual world, which is perfectly symbolical of the path which we love to travel in the interior and ideal world; and sometimes, no doubt, we find it difficult to choose our direction, because it does not yet exist distinctly in our idea.”

As an adverb the word fain, archaic to our ears, means “with pleasure.”  Try reading the sentence beginning with “We would fain…” through to the end of the paragraph, slowly a few times.  Perhaps you can apply this to your own life.

My walk today was simply a saunter, as Thoreau uses the word: wandering to our own Holy Land, a land found within our hearts and spirits.  I meandered a bit, following an intuition honed by countless times in these forests, in a way that I suppose was quite symbolical of the path which I love to travel within my interior world.  Yet I find it becoming easier to choose my direction, as my direction seems to be becoming clearer every day.

I have come to love my retirement.  Rather than seeing these years as a time to withdraw into leisure activities, I have experienced more of the 16th century meaning of the word: a time of comparative solitude, as on spiritual retreat.  Maybe it’s all the meditation, or perhaps all the time spent counseling and teaching, but I feel more confident each day that my direction is well chosen, and that my forest walks reflect my interior world.  Walking, for me, is a blessing.  Everyday walking is secular; that is, taking a pathway among our current society and culture.  Forest walking is sacred: that is, wandering ground that is hallowed, that sanctifies.  I believe that a sacred space exists for each of us to walk, but for most of our lives we are consumed, necessarily, by the secular, by the demands to provide food, shelter, clothing and all the material needs for survival.  To find time to retire, step back and walk with sacred intent, is difficult.  But those times are, I believe, when we are at our best, and worth much sacrifice.

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Is Life Worth Living?

I’ve been a Pastoral Counselor for 25+ years in private practice and a counselor educator for nearly 20 years.  I first discovered William James when my mentor at Loyola University Maryland gave me a copy of The Varieties of Religious Experience to read during my doctoral studies.  James, along with Thoreau, Emerson, Margaret Fuller, and more lately Barry Lopez and Wade Davis have been wonderful companions in both of my roles as a therapist and teacher.  A few years ago John Kaag published Sick Souls, Healthy Minds: How William James Can Save Your Life, which instigated my investigation of James’s lectures and essays, especially his 1895 lecture Is Life Worth Living?  As Kaag and Jonathan Van Belle report in their book Be Not Afraid: In the Words of William James, James had been asked by the Cambridge YMCA to address a spate of recent suicides in the area, to which he responded with this lecture.  And his answer to this existential question?  “Maybe, it depends on the liver.”

My area of focus over the years has been community mental health, working with people suffering from painful mental illnesses and/or addictions, especially gambling addiction which has the highest rate of suicide of all the addictions.  Working with this population has made awareness of suicide and its mental and emotional climate very important to me.  At first in my mental health career (mid life career changer; I got started as a therapist at age 42) I struggled with being a “yes man;” that is, my automatic answer to anyone suicidal was “yes it IS worth living!”  While that may seem a reasonable answer it is important to remember that the person considering suicide is not usually coming at this question from a reasoning point of view.  So to the suicidal “liver” in front of you who cannot answer that question easily your affirmation of life is experienced as shaming, and often a sense of toxic shame is at the heart of the suicidal impulse.  This is especially true for people who endured trauma, neglect and abuse in childhood.  It is awful to find no reason to live and then feel shamed for having that feeling.

James’s “maybe” is not only the best response to the suicidal person, it is the correct response, once the therapist has ascertained that the client is feeling suicidal but is able to give assurances that they have neither the intention nor the means to commit suicide.  The evidence for this is found whenever any person who is not suicidal responds to the question “What makes MY life worth living?”  Inevitably every answer a person might have for that question, whether the answer is as profound as “falling in love” or as quotidian as “hiking forested trails,” involves  a “maybe” in one way or another.  There is no certitude that a certain activity will be meaningful.  It is the chance of meaningfulness, the possibility of contentment, that makes our most important values and activities most cherished.  If this is true for what makes life worth living, then certainly the answer to the most primal of questions, “IS life worth living?,” must include this same “maybe.”

Early in my career a friend of mine committed suicide.  Tom suffered from debilitating diabetes and had been told by his physician earlier that day that his life span would be less than 10 more years and his legs would soon be amputated.  That night he got drunk and stepped in front of a freight train.  I heard the news at 7 am the following morning; it stopped me cold and made me ask myself that question: Is life worth living?  and if it is, why?  I took time off from my work as a psychotherapist to gather my thoughts and manage my emotions.  It was a long and contemplative week.

The day that I returned to the mental health clinic after my friend’s death a very depressed client, a middle aged man who had lost everything he held dear in life, came in to my office and told me he had decided to commit suicide.  He stated that he knew I would hospitalize him; he expected it from me and he respected my professionalism.  But the inpatient unit couldn’t hold him forever and once released he would quietly end his life.  He wanted to tell me now to thank me for my good work, but his losses were too insurmountable so he had made his decision, which was irrevocable.

I was unguarded; I spontaneously began to weep.  Not little weeping; heaving, crying, snot running down my face, loud gasps for air weeping.  Uncontrollable.  He leaned forward and said “my God, Jim, what’s happened to you?”  I told him, crossing boundaries, about my friend who had died a week earlier.  He said something like “I can see how much you loved him.  Tell me more.”  Which I did, as he responded authentically and empathically.  Then he comforted me in my loss, and then I regained my composure.

“If I kill myself will my friends feel this way?” “Yes,” I said.  “Then I will not do this.  I cannot be the source of such suffering.  I must find a reason to live.”

I recall this story so well because I have used it to illustrate the nature of suicidal feelings with my students and interns for a long time.  I believe that what made the difference was my authenticity; I did not try to be a “life is good!  You SHOULD want to live!” kind of therapist.  Instead I devolved into the feelings of loss associated with my love for my friend, and this led to my client reaching out to help me.  And in reaching out, in actively choosing to love me in that moment he began to find reasons to live.  He began to resolve the “maybe” as he found within himself his dormant capacity to be a loving presence in the world.

I’m happy to report that my client had another good ten years of living before he died of natural causes.  He found intimate love and friendship again in his life, which had been missing.  He stayed in touch after moving out of the area, and was able to look back on his days of despair with wisdom and even some humor.  His losses from those days remained; he had hurt too many people and even attempts at amends making could not heal those wounds.  But he had come to accept his failures and find a modicum of self-forgiveness through compassion to himself and others.  He once again found the good life.

Life is difficult even on good days sometimes.  But the process of living is made more complete by finding those reasons for living over and over again.  The implicit shaming that well-meaning people, including therapists, foist upon people causes much misery.  James’s authentic face-forward approach to this question, “maybe,” is healthy because it is real.  It is a road less traveled by therapists and loved ones because it feels so vulnerable, but that vulnerability is grounded in the reality that each of us is on a journey to discover our own reasons for living.  When I can be present with a heartfelt “maybe,” the suffering soul before me experiences a level of authenticity and understanding that is healing in and of itself.  With that presence the dialog that must occur could emerge; without that presence there is only more despair and, tragically, worsened shame.  If we seek to truly help the sick soul we can only do so by leaning into the reality that life’s worth is always anchored on the foundation of that existential “maybe.”

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Talking Mindfulness

Here is a video of another conversation with Sam Beard, this time about mindfulness and meditation. Hope you enjoy!

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Conversations with Sam

I have known Sam Beard since Labor Day 2016. The previous June, shortly before having my left hip replaced, I went to a meeting he had organized in downtown Wilmington DE. There were about 40 or 50 people in the meeting room, which was in a high-rise corporate office space. All of the people in the room purported to be mindfulness meditation teachers; I only recognized about 10 of them. It was a fascinating hour as Sam told us that he intended to find a way to teach mindfulness to over a billion people around the world. I concluded he was pretty crazy and went home.

A few months later I got an email from Sam’s assistant soliciting donations for the Global Investment Foundation for Tomorrow (GIFT), a 501c3 non-profit corporation Sam had started a few years earlier. Concluding that the meeting was only a way to build a mailing list, I sent a somewhat cynical email back and asked to be taken off the list. To my surprise Sam called me a few days later and asked to meet me. The only day available to both of us was Labor Day, so I trekked into his office on that morning. The next two hours were life changing for me.

I learned that Sam had a long career finding ways to make life better for people. One of his first jobs after graduating from Yale in the early 1960’s was as an aid to Robert F. Kennedy. When Senator Kennedy was assassinated Sam fell into a depression that lasted a few years. He looks back at that period as the most painful in his life. In the early 1970’s Senator Kennedy’s sister-in-law, Jacqueline Kennedy, widow of President Kennedy, suggested to Sam that he should start something that would recognize the good that people do in the world. Out of this conversation came the Jefferson Awards for Public Service, which was co-founded by Sam, Jackie Kennedy, and Senator Robert Taft, Jr. If you’d like to learn more about the Jefferson Awards go to this link; you’ll be amazed at how powerfully this organization has made a change for good in the world:

https://www.multiplyinggood.org/what-we-do/jefferson-awards

Sam retired in his mid-70’s from the Jefferson Awards (he still serves on its Board of Governors) but he wasn’t through yet. He started GIFT with the intention to multiply philanthropy throughout the world, but then shifted, shortly before I met him, to his mission to spread mindfulness throughout the world. At that Labor Day meeting I realized that Sam was “the real deal” and signed on, starting on January 1, 2017, as the Delaware Director of Operations, a post I held for 2.5 years. During that time GIFT trained over 1,000 public school teachers in mindfulness, along with hundreds of mental health professionals and all sorts of helping people throughout Delaware. Our intention was to train people who could then share their mindfulness practice with the people they help. It was a resounding success.

I left GIFT in mid-2019 as Sam had decided to shift its emphasis from mindfulness to what he calls “0 to 5,” an outreach to find ways to have a positive impact on early childhood development. As usual, Sam is thinking big! And meeting with many successes. You can read about it at this link: https//:giftglobal.org/zero-to-five

In early 2022 Sam called me and asked me to help him out again. He wanted to interview me for a series of videos to be called “Ask Jim.” I was skeptical of course. But Sam was certain that these videos would have something to say that might be helpful to people. So in March of 2022 Sam and I sat down for four and a half hours to record a wide ranging conversation, that has since been edited into several video vignettes. I am posting the first of those, which concerns “Happiness.” I would be honored if you would watch it, and very happy if you would post in the Comments any Questions, Concerns, Observations, Complaints….anything at all to initiate a conversation about this topic. The video is posted below; I hope you enjoy it and please let me know what you think!

Thanks in advance! And looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

Peace,

Jim

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Mindfulness Meditation

Thoreau, June 22, 1851

I was pondering what to write about next for my website when I picked up my copy of I to Myself: An annotated selection from the journal of Henry D. Thoreau, edited by Jeffrey S. Cramer.  I’ve been reading a few weeks of Thoreau’s journal at at time lately.  Today I opened to Thoreau’s entry on June 22, 1851 and found my next publication.  This is word for word from Thoreau’s journal; I hope you find it as enriching as I did.

“We are enabled to criticise others only when we are different from, and in a given particular superior to, them ourselves. By our aloofness from men and their affairs we are enabled to overlook and criticise them. There are but few men who stand on the hills by the roadside. I am sane only when I have risen above my common sense, when I do not take the foolish view of things which is commonly taken, when I do not live for the low ends for which men commonly live. Wisdom is not common. To what purpose have I senses, if I am thus absorbed in affairs? My pulse must beat with Nature. After a hard day’s work without a thought, turning my very brain into a mere tool, only in the quiet of evening do I so far recover my senses as to hear the cricket, which in fact has been chirping all day. In my better hours I am conscious of the influx of a serene and unquestionable wisdom which partly unfits, and if I yielded to it more rememberingly would wholly unfit me, for what is called the active business of life, for that furnishes nothing on which the eye of reason can rest. What is that other kind of life to which I am thus continually allured? which alone I love? Is it a life for this world? Can a man feed and clothe himself gloriously who keeps only the truth steadily before him? who calls in no evil to his aid? Are there duties which necessarily interfere with the serene perception of truth? Are our serene moments mere foretastes of heaven,—joys gratuitously vouchsafed to us as a consolation,—or simply a transient realization of what might be the whole tenor of our lives?

To be calm, to be serene! There is the calmness of the lake when there is not a breath of wind; there is the calmness of a stagnant ditch. So is it with us. Sometimes we are clarified and calmed healthily, as we never were before in our lives, not by an opiate, but by some unconscious obedience to the all-just laws, so that we become like a still lake of purest crystal and without an effort our depths are revealed to ourselves. All the world goes by us and is reflected in our deeps. Such clarity! obtained by such pure means! by simple living, by honesty of purpose. We live and rejoice. I awoke into a music which no one about me heard. Whom shall I thank for it? The luxury of wisdom! the luxury of virtue! Are there any intemperate in these things? I feel my Maker blessing me. To the sane man the world is a musical instrument. The very touch affords an exquisite pleasure.”

This is worth reading and reading again. His mind is sauntering, a way of being in the world that Thoreau particularly valued. He starts by noting that the tendency to “criticise” emerges “by our aloofness from men and their affairs” which culminates in being “enabled to overlook and criticise them,” hardly a generous way of being. He meanders through ideas and observations, and finishes with “I feel my Maker blessing me.”

I have chosen this year to live intentionally in a Thoreauvian way. Once again he teaches us how to live and live well.

PS While traipsing around White Clay Creek State Park today I came upon Snowbells in full glory! Nature.